If only your new baby came with instructions!

There is no job more frightening – or more rewarding—than being a first-time mom. While you may have read tons of books or surfed the internet for information, you’ll soon discover that no two babies are alike, and what may ease one infant to sleep for a long afternoon nap may have no effect on a colicky baby who cries until 2 a.m. So following are some true-and-tested tips for new moms:

1. Ask For Help

While our American culture tends to emphasize “doing it on your own” and being an individual, it truly does take a village to raise a child. Enlist the help of those you love and trust, whether this be family or friends. Remember that you are not alone: do not be afraid of asking for help, whether that means someone bringing a home-cooked meal or watching the baby long enough for you to take a bath.

2. Sleep When Baby Sleeps

Sleep and a new baby typically don’t go together, but you should remember that your body has been through labor and you do need to rest. When you’re well-rested, you’re better able to take care of your baby. When baby sleeps, you should sleep!

3. Prioritize Time With Your Baby

You may have a lot of visitors who want to see the baby. Just be sure to have plenty of bonding time with your infant. If you’re not feeling up for visitors, feel free to politely say so. Those who love and support you will understand.

4. Remember That It’s Normal For You To Have Difficulty Breastfeeding

If you decide to breastfeed your child, don’t be frustrated or depressed if it doesn’t go smoothly on the first attempts. Your doctor can help you get in touch with a lactation consultant if your child has difficulty nursing. Remember that not everyone can breastfeed. A health care professional can help you evaluate options and decide what is best for both you and your child.

5. Filter The Parenting Advice Carefully

Bookstores are full of helpful advice on parenting and how to raise a baby. While it’s fine to gather educational information, remember that when it comes to babies, one size does not fit all. You know your baby better than anyone. Not every tip or plan is going to work with every baby, so keep this in mind as you read new literature on the topic.

6. Let The House Get Dirty

This is not the time to worry about keeping the house in perfect order or patrolling for dust bunnies. This is not the time to worry about whether or not you have baby drool on your shoulder. This is a time to hold, love, and nourish your child. This is the only moment, where you will be a first-time mom.  Remember that with all the exhaustion, there is still wonder, joy and love.